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  • SevenDadSevenDad 14 replies0 discussionsRegistered User Junior Member
    I'm glad I'm getting the POV that perhaps we shouldn't let one sport drive the process...because that's currently the vector we are on for 7D2.

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  • london203london203 6 replies0 discussionsRegistered User
    On the other hand, there are so very many schools out there. We used the "one sport" to narrow the field -- which it did considerably. I guess it just has to be regarded as one aspect of the choice.....
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  • ssacdfamilyssacdfamily 1 replies0 discussionsRegistered User
    Done right: visited the schools, tried to look beyond the brand names, tried not to let the tour guide form our opinion of the school (difficult). Acknowledged that no school is perfect, looked for schools that will work with you in a positive way when things aren’t going perfectly.

    Done right in spite of ourselves – we tried to let a sport drive the process. The sport was removed after picking the school. The replacement activity - Speech - turned out to be exactly what this child needed at this time, and the sport will easily “keep” for later.
    Lesson learned – don’t let a single sport or activity drive the process.

    Came close to being a regret, but done right with gritted teeth – child 2 had to pick between the academic power house and the school that would help him develop good habits. Came within 5 hours of picking the powerhouse, but in the end went with the chance to learn good habits. With 20 20 hindsight, I am sure that the academic powerhouse might have helped on the habits, and the “develop good habits school” has demonstrated **** firepower. The important thing is that we are seeing increase in performance and decrease in sense of entitlement. Worth the gritted teeth and the brand name foregone.

    Lesson learned – if it’s going to be important to you in a crisis, ask during the interview process about counselors or dorm parents or who ever it is who you can call if things go wrong. If you’re lucky, you won’t need them, but if you do need them, you want to know what the attitude is before the crisis hits, not during. We actually didn’t ask about this during the interview process, we just got lucky enough to chose the school that has dedicated counselors with sympathetic and sensible ears. We needed it.

    Lesson learned – put them on a budget and get them used to running their own finances. Here is X$ that needs to last Y months, figure out how to deposit it in a checking account and get it out with that magical but dangerous item, the ATM card. Among other things, a limited contribution from the Bank of Mom & Dad sure increases the motivation to earn their own money during the summer.

    Lesson learned – no choice is 100% good or bad, though sometimes I found myself thinking in those terms just to keep my sanity. Enthusiasm and persistence will get you a long way.

    Lesson learned – trust your gut. Driving away from the powerhouse school, where Mom, Grandpa, and Great Uncle had studied, child #1 said “Mom, people aren’t happy here”. Probably an extreme response, and we had to get through unhappiness at the school she did end up going to – but as I watch her count-down to graduation, three years later, I can say that she knew what was good for her, and her choice has worked out fantastically well for her.
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  • PhotographerMomPhotographerMom 5 replies0 discussionsRegistered User
    When we were looking at schools, the one big question I asked both kids was this: Down the road if you get injured or suddenly lose interest in this sport- Do you think you'll still be happy at this school?
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  • CanadaDadCanadaDad 1 replies1 discussionsRegistered User Forum Champion
    These responses have been incredibly helpful. I find it interesting to see how many people have mentioned sports and the role that they played or didn't play in the decision making process. I also find it interesting to see how many people tried to form a relationship with AOs at the school.

    Did anyone feel like they were given a "wink, wink" from an AO or on the other side a subtle signal that their child may not get accepted, or was acceptance day just a complete shock to everyone.

    As I've mentioned before, our decision to go to BS is still very much up in the air as our son is at a great school right now. Downside of the school is that there is not significant differentiation in certain core subjects as son advances (ie. there is math and enriched math and you follow along one path regardless of where son is performing). I see that the BS curriculums at a number of schools provide much more differentiation in that if you are very strong in a certain subject there is ample ability to continue to explore it, perhaps to a level well beyond what you would expect in year 1 of university.

    Have parents/students found that the expectations of the BS have been in line with what you were expecting to achieve? For those parents who had children go to BS from a very strong K-8 program what are some of your thoughts?
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