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Mom attending JC with me?

tylerbingtylerbing Posts: 64 College Search & Selection Champion
edited May 2013 in Parents Forum
Hi. I'm a junior in high school and am curious if anyone can relate to their parents going to college with them. If I'm correct my mom will attend the same jc as I will and will be in her second year when I start. Can anyone relate? Thanks
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Replies to: Mom attending JC with me?

  • LasMaLasMa Posts: 14
    edited May 2013
    It depends on why she's at the JC. If she's there because she wants to further her education, and you'll be nothing more than fellow students, then what's the harm? At our local community college, the campus is pretty big and there are classes all hours of the day and night, so the chances of bumping into a specific person are not great.

    OTOH, if she's enrolled in order to establish a stronghold from which to keep an eye on you, that's a problem.

    If you do end up being fellow students, you may want to sit down and establish the boundaries if you happen to run into each other on campus. Ignore each other? Quick "Hello"? Is it OK to have coffee together? You certainly don't want her running up and hugging you if she sees you.
  • Lemaitre1Lemaitre1 Posts: 7
    edited May 2013
    Both my sons are Physics majors at Sacramento State University. Now that I am retired from my medical practice I indicated that I would like to take some upper division Physics courses at Sacramento State as a non-degree student. My sons said absolutely not, if I wanted to take advanced Physics courses I would have to take them at UC Davis which is more expensive to begin with and does not offer a discount for non-degree students 55 and over like Sacramento State does.
  • calmomcalmom Posts: 43
    edited May 2013
    And your sons are paying their own way through college and living on their own?
  • LasMaLasMa Posts: 14
    edited May 2013
    Lemaitre, I thought the CSUs aren't admitting non-degree students these days because they don't even have room for all the degree students who want in, due to budget cuts?
  • ucbalumnusucbalumnus Posts: 296
    edited May 2013
    I would not be surprised if non-degree students can enroll in courses on a space-available basis. From the school's budget standpoint, it makes sense to allow that, to get a tuition-paying student in a space that would otherwise be empty.
  • Jea828Jea828 Posts: 14 College Search & Selection Champion
    edited May 2013
    I like to tell the story of how my mother-in-law went with us on our honeymoon. That always gets a reaction because it sounds so crazy, but it was actually a lot less weird than it sounds. She worked on a cruise ship and was able to get us free fare on a cruise she was working. We had dinner with her one night, but other than that, we barely knew she was there.

    My point is, the statement that "My mom is going to college with me" is going to sound a lot weirder than the actual reality of it... as long as you set some ground rules such as LasMa mentioned. Chances are, your schedules will be different enough that you'll rarely run into each other unless you make an effort to. You'll just have to talk with her and make sure she won't be making that effort at times you don't want her to.
  • LBowieLBowie Posts: 14
    edited May 2013
    A woman I worked with attends the same community college as her daughter. I don't think either one minds. I think they like bumping in to one another on campus sometimes.
  • ProudpatriotProudpatriot Posts: 13
    edited May 2013
    I am just not understanding why this would be a big deal.
  • mathmommathmom Posts: 70
    edited May 2013
    I overlapped with my brother in college for two years and hardly ever saw him. I'd probably rather not be in the same class with my mother, but otherwise I don't see the issue. She has the right to get an education too.
  • ordinarylivesordinarylives Posts: 24
    edited May 2013
    There's currently a mother/daughter pair at my institution. It's small enough that most people probably know they're related. But, they're in two very different majors and one never sees them together. It's not weird.
  • mom2collegekidsmom2collegekids Posts: 216
    edited May 2013
    this is a Calif CC, right?

    If so, then it's probably large enough that you'll rarely see each other unless you purposely sign up for the same classes. Even if you are in the same class, if you don't sit next to each other and announce to everyone that you're related, no one will know.

    College isn't like high school. People attend classes at various times. Some start at 8 am, some start at 10 am, some go only in the afternoon or evening.

    Some of my siblings were on the same college campus at the same time. I doubt that they ever saw each other.

    I just realized that because you can't drive, you and your mom will probably be trying to coordinate your schedules so that she can drive you. But, even if that's so, if you're taking different classes, you'll probably only see each other in the parking lot as you arrive and depart.
  • mom2collegekidsmom2collegekids Posts: 216
    edited May 2013
    When my younger son was a soph in high school, he loudly declared that he would never go to the same college his brother has chosen. They had gone to a small private high school and saw each other often. I was fine with his choice.

    However, once my younger son saw how big the college campus was and he liked the school very much, he decided to go to the same university. My boys RARELY saw each other UNLESS they planned it. They chose to take a Spanish and Italian class together - they even sat next to each other - lol. They chose to meet every Tuesday for lunch. If they hadn't made those choices, they wouldn't have seen each other because they were in different majors and 2 years apart.
  • happymomof1happymomof1 Posts: 100
    edited May 2013
    Every year, our local community college publishes an article in the newspaper about some family that graduated at the same time. Mom and one kid, Mom and twins, three siblings, Grandpa and grandson, well you get the picture. In the interviews the family members always appear to be deeply proud of each other's achievements. Clearly this can work out very well.

    Don't forget to find out if there is an alumni scholarship for you once your mom graduates (that is assuming that she graduates before you do), our community college has those as well.
  • tptshortytptshorty Posts: 4
    edited May 2013
    At the community college where I teach, many parents are attending at the same time as their children. I think it's sweet.
  • beyondtxbeyondtx Posts: 1 Harvard Champion
    edited May 2013
    As a mom who went back to school to complete my degree after having my children (though they were elementary age at the time), I think you should let your mom know how proud you are that she is pursuing her education - it takes guts to walk the halls with all of the 'youngsters'. She should be commended.

    And like the others have mentioned, you probably won't come across each other very often.
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